Month: February 2017

The Courage To Start Again

Developing the courage to start all over is challenging for everyone. Later in life we have amassed an arsenal of mental weapons to defend ourselves against a threat, yet, increasingly we have a habit of becoming the threat. It creates the situation where we lack the courage to start again.

When I started in my business career at the young age of 11, not much could derail my intentions. I think if you analysed why, the answer would become very clear. All of my family and friends told me how amazing it was that I had decided to travel down such a path.courage to start

The Courage To Start Again

Later in life however, the fragility of our ego takes over to burden us with questioning fears of doubt. They are often precipitated by our supposed friends and family who ask “Are you crazy to leave that security behind” or “But have you thought about your family, what you are doing to them” and then it creeps in to our minds, ever so slowly. Self-doubt, the killer of all great ideas.

While we have this amazing arsenal of experiences and self-defense mechanisms we also drag along with us a pile of self-doubt – in fact, trucks full of self-doubt.

Many of my friends and occasionally even my wife ask how I can be so upbeat and happy all of the time? The truth is I am probably not in reality, but comparably I am. If I am in a bad situation I focus on the way out, I am excited to have the opportunity to change my circumstances. Besides, getting down about the situation doesn’t solve anything, it simply serves to make people around me miserable!

Some of my self-doubt was built up in the mid-nineties. As a relatively young entrepreneur, I had decided to branch out diversify and get involved with a very honest and ethical Multi Level Marketing business.

The allure of a lifestyle of freedom and travel was strong enough for me to give it my best shot. My wife and I were quickly hanging around with the leaders in the business and enjoying the success that we had created. But as time went on, the success was never duplicated. We were stuck at the same level. We never reached the ultra high levels that beckoned. Yet, we were being taught if we just did the work the success would come. It was supposed to be a process not a puzzle!

After eight years of trying to push our business beyond that point we decided to back down from the work habit that was proving fruitless. I needed to develop the courage to start again.

I had a terrible feeling of failure and could not overcome the thought that “I” was not able to grow my business, yet in reality, the nature of the business is that “others” need to grow their business to succeed also. Was I a bad mentor? No, the system told me that they do all the work. So I was left feeling like a loser but deep down, knowing I wasn’t.

I had to get back on top and so I leapt into some new business endeavours and enjoyed some success. I started a rally racing team and quickly won a couple of championships. I proved to myself that I still had a winning attitude, a determination to see things through.

To a certain extent, even top corporate leaders suffer from the same silent thoughts that lead them to sometimes doubt their ability to lead. Then again, leadership is a very lonely place.

Through my experience, I learned that later in life, our approach to success can be very different. Our skill sets for entrepreneurial activities are in place, we just need a little coaching and inspiration. We need to innovate and above all, protect what is important to us.

As a result, I am launching a coaching academy in March for people who wish to look at innovating a new life, defining a new destiny and road mapping a future that may have alluded them to this point. http://IntroducingSuccess.com will be a learning academy with a difference. It will be a place that allows people to develop the courage to start again.

To encapsulate the flavour of the project, I want to leave you with a quote from Jon Krakauer’s book, Into The Wild. The words could be your biggest friend as you develop the courage to start something new.

“make a radical change in your lifestyle and begin to boldly do things which you may previously never have thought of doing, or been too hesitant to attempt. So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservation, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun. If you want to get more out of life, you must lose your inclination for monotonous security and adopt a helter-skelter style of life that will at first appear to you to be crazy. But once you become accustomed to such a life you will see its full meaning and its incredible beauty.” 

 

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